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The Top 10 Flirting Moves You Need to NOW to Make Sparks Fly with Wonderful Women

Featuring NYC Dating Coach Connell Barrett
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If you’re not sure how to flirt with women, this episode of the Dating Transformation Podcast is for you. Dating coach and host Connell Barrett has had 1,000 dates (literally!), so he knows exactly how to help you connect with women.

Listen in as he shares his Top 10 flirting moves to help you attract your next girlfriend, and do it with class and authenticity. You’re about to learn…

2:17 The first rule of flirting

4:30 How to use your voice to create a connection

7:31 The right posture and eye contact

8:45 The charming, consensual, NON-CREEPY way to physically touch her on a date

14:27 A simple, powerful thing to say on every first date that she’s gonna love

17:17 Advanced flirting move! How the “Push-Pull” can get her super into you

21:45 A texting shift to instantly become funny and confident when messaging her

24:00 Say THIS on first dates to make her want to chase you

26:00 An eye-contact secret to amplify mutual sexual tension

27:03 A fun first-date move to get her WAY more into you

Listen now so you can become a MASTER at flirting, which will bring you closer to finding that incredible girlfriend you deserve.

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Connell Barrett

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Chapters

00:00 - Introduction

00:15- Top 10 Funniest Prompts for Dating Apps

03:52 - Navigating Fun and Flirty Date Conversations

08:03 - Reusing Your Favorite Dating Prompts

12:39 - Adding Humor and Romance to Prompts

15:19 - Clickbaiting with a Sense of Humor

19:09 - Boosting Dating Confidence for Ideal Matches

22:50 - Spark Conversations with Netflix Humor

25:21 - Exploring More Funny Bio Ideas

29:09 - Using Humor to Attract Dates

30:16 - Standing Out with a Balanced Dating Profile

31:03 - Outro

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TRANSCRIPT

Connell Barrett.

 

I'm not a model. I don't have a 6 pack. I have a 40 ounce. That's what I have.

 

Welcome to the dating transformation podcast. Here's your host, dating coach, Connell Barrett.

 

 

Welcome back to the dating transformation podcast. I am your host, dating coach Connell Barrett. I help guys learn to flirt, gain confidence, and get a great girlfriend all by being truly authentic. No creepy pickup tricks needed. And happy Valentine's Day. I know you're not listening to this on Valentine's Day. I'm recording it on Valentine's Day. So it's a perfect day to help us get some matches and some dates.

I'm gonna guess that because you're listening to this, you're probably not getting a whole lot of matches on the apps. Most guys don't. You might get very few quality matches with women you're into. Or if you do get some good leads, it's tough for you to chase them down and turn them into dates. And that can get frustrating. And it can lead to a lack of dates and just really giving up on dating apps and feeling really bummed out about your opportunities to find a partner. And today, I wanna help you fix that. Today, I wanna help you make 1 big improvement to your online dating profile, especially if you're on Hinge.

But this really goes for any dating app that has prompts. So definitely Hinge, also Bumble and any platform that lets you have those fun little prompts that pop up. And today, I wanna give you my top 10 funniest prompts for Hinge, Bumble, or any app that uses prompts. And I'm gonna get to it in a second. So a lot of guys say to me, hey. What's the most important thing that's holding me back? Why am I not getting matches and good leads on dating apps? And the most common answer, the biggest, most universal issue is poor photos, not having good photos. But that's not what we're gonna talk about today because the 2nd biggest reason why guys don't get matches or get dates is a lack of humor on their profile, a lack of fun, funny playfulness, good old fashioned humor coming across as a fun, funny guy or at least a guy who can be fun and funny. And so other than good photos, which is definitely the most important thing on dating app success, you wanna have some humor.

 

 

You wanna make a woman laugh. You wanna make her smile, giggle, and laugh for obvious reasons. Obviously, if she's looking at your profile and you crack a joke, you have a funny prompt, it shows her not only are you giving her in that moment a fun little burst of enjoyment. Everybody loves to laugh. Right? She's gonna wanna keep reading. She's gonna wanna keep swiping and learning more about you. But you're also doing something else when you're using humor on a dating profile. You're letting her know that you're probably gonna have a fun date.

 

 

She's gonna have fun with you. She's gonna enjoy dating you or at least enjoy that 1st date. You know, what women hate on a 1st date is a really boring date. They hate boring dates. They hate awkward dates where the guy just there's awkward pauses and the conversation goes nowhere. And they also hate creepy guys on dates. Now I know you are not there's nothing creepy about you. If you're listening to this podcast, there's not a creepy bone in your body, guaranteed.

But maybe you struggle with being fun or funny on dates. And maybe you struggle with conversation, what to say, how to say it, how to be flirty, and how to be fun. And we'll talk about that in future podcasts, and I'll continue. And I have talked about it in other episodes. But the thing about having really good fun, funny prompts and a couple at least 2 or 3 pieces of your profile that make a woman smile and laugh is because not only are you giving her that little moment of smiling and laughing, but you're basically sending a signal to her saying, hey. If we go on a date, you're gonna have a good time. It's not gonna be awkward. It's not gonna be boring.

We're gonna laugh and have some fun. That doesn't guarantee an emotional romantic connection, but man, it does help you get more dates. So having a profile that makes her smile is so attractive to women. It makes her laugh. Making a woman laugh on your profile, that is sexier than having 6 pack abs. Look. I'm not the best looking guy in the world. I'm not a model

I don't have a 6 pack. I have a 40 ounce. That's what I have. But I'm pretty funny on my good days. And a woman who likes my type is gonna laugh and giggle as she looks at my profile, looks at my funny prompts, and that's gonna make her more likely to wanna have a date with me. Because I can't show her the 6 pack because I don't have one. I can't show her my male model looks because I don't have male model looks. I don't look like a male model.

I look like Ron Weasley's stepbrother, but I can make her smile. I can make her laugh. So let's get to it. I wanna go I wanna count down my 10 what I think are my 10 funniest Hinge prompts or Bumble prompts. You can basically use them on any app that has prompts. But these are really designed for Hinge first and foremost cause that's where I do a lot of my testing of prompts to see what works and what doesn't. So I'm gonna go through here we go here we go. I'm gonna count down my top 10 funniest Hinge prompts.

Here's a quick little caveat. You don't have to copy and paste these prompts and use them exactly. Feel free to use one of them word for word if it works for you. At the same time, the whole thing about dating, what really works with women, is showing your authentic sense of humor, your authentic self. So feel free to tweak any of these prompts in a way that you think is more you. I'm gonna read your mind. Ready? I'll bet that you would love to confidently approach women. Get great matches on the dating apps, flirt with charm, and attract your dream girlfriend. Right? But fear keeps you from approaching. You're not sure how to flirt. You struggle on the apps. And desirable women just don't seem into you. Well, I have great news.

Dating coach, Connell Barrett, can help. He's guided thousands of men like you to more confidence and help them attract their dream girlfriends. So book a free strategy call today to see if Connell's coaching is right for you. On your call, Connell or a team member will give you personalized advice to help you have more confidence, more dates, and more fun. Oh, and you'll be dating women as your best self, a charming gentleman. That's because Connell does not teach creepy pickup artist tricks. He unlocks your most confident self so you can make authentic romantic connections. Your next steps? Book your free call today at

datingtransformation.com/contact and grab a time that works for you.

Then you'll be on your way to more confidence, better results, and attracting bright, beautiful women. Oh, so you know, soon Connell will stop taking on new clients, so book a call today while you still can. Go to dating transformation.com forward slash contact and transform your love life. Bye.

Because hey. And if some of these prompts, if you love them, if they if you if they get you laughing, feel free to copy and paste 1 or 2. But what's gonna work best is a profile where she's really getting a sense of you. So feel free to tweak any of these prompts to make them sound more like you cause we want we want you to sound like you, the authentic you, not like Connell Barrett. All that said, here we go. My top 10 what I think are my top 10 funniest dating prompts. Some of these I wrote, others I sort of developed with clients. Others, I think I've seen other dating coaches use these, so I'm not claiming, like, I wrote every word I'm about to say.

 

So I'll go. I'll give credit where credit is due for the appropriate one if I can remember. But anyway, these are the top 10 that I've developed and edited and some of which I wrote. Here we go. Number 10 I'm an amazing kisser at least that's what my cousin tells me And then you want a kissing emoji. It's number 10. Why does that work? Well, what we're doing here is we're cracking a joke, We're making her think that you're bragging, but then you do a reversal. You do a little twist on it. And instead of bragging about being a great kisser, you're making a silly joke about how, okay, but you've only kissed your cousin.

 

So there's the unexpected. It's the unexpected that makes this funny. And as a little side bonus here, it is good that we're mentioning kissing on a dating app. So we're adding just a hint of flirtatiousness, getting her thinking about kissing you. And then you throw the funny little misdirect talking about your cousin. An alternate version of this one, if you don't like making a kissing your cousin joke, which I would respect, You could say, I'm an amazing kisser. I practice a lot on my pillow all night long. That's basically me in grade school thinking about my crush. So that's number 10, the amazing kisser prompt

Number 9, I can cook any dish that you want as long as what you want is peanut butter on toast. And then there's a drool emoji. This prompt comes from oh, there's a great there's a really great coach in Australia, a guy named Damian. Damien, I forget how he pronounces his last name. He works with a school. His business is called the School of Attraction. I'm a big fan. And he had a prompt that was very similar to this.

I reworked it a little bit. So credit where credit's due. Props, Damian. I'll say this one again. I can cook any dish you want as long as what you want is peanut butter on toast with a drooling emoji. So here, again, we're doing a part of the one of the big secrets of comedy of being funny is just leading the audience down one path, and then you redirect them toward another. So it's a surprise. And here, she thinks that you're about to talk about some cool dish that you can make

But instead you're cracking a self effacing joke about peanut butter on toast. So this gets a lot of good 's and laughs on my Hinge and on my client's Hinge. Here's another one. This one actually comes from Damian as well or at least it was in his program. Quote, the divorce rate among my socks is astonishing. I like that one because it's just a silly random thing about the idea of socks getting divorced to me is funny. And it's a common thing. Everybody loses socks in the laundry.

So there's just something silly and light about this. It's all about giving good emotions. So feel free to give that a try. The divorce rate among my socks is astonishing. That is number 1098. Okay. Here's another good one I like. 1st Date Vibes.

We had a long romantic dinner with my parents. Parentheses. What, too soon? So this is a good one for Hinge because first, you know, Hinge has that First Date Vibes little category that sets up the prompt. So this works well with that. Again, I'll say it again. First Date Vibes. We had a long romantic dinner with my parents. What? Too soon? The joke here again is you're trying to subvert expectations. Most guys, if they do write something about having a sexy fun describing a date, a romantic date, they might say, we I'd love a romantic fun dinner date with you. Again, we're subverting expectations by making it and that your parents are going to be there. So that obviously is a joke. Won't no woman's gonna take this literally seriously. And a woman who likes this kind of humor is gonna absolutely laugh at this. And then what's nice about these humorous prompts, whether especially on Hinge, where on Hinge, a woman can respond to the prompt itself very easily, what can often happen is you get a nice back and forth going. She hears the prompt, and then she follows with a comment. She might say, oh, hey.

So I'm gonna meet your parents on our 1st date, and she'll LOL. And then you can say, yeah. My mom's gonna love you. She loves women, you know, named Jane who have dogs. You're totally her type. And I'm thinking we can get married by the 3rd date. So you could turn it into a fun, playful back and forth banter if the prompt clicks with her. Okay.

The next one, I like this one a lot. This is a Connell Barrett original. Shirtless, I look just like Hemsworth, my neighbor, Phil Hemsworth. Again, we are pulling the rug out from under the woman reading this because it starts off with you sounding like you're trying to brag about how good you lurk, you look shirtless, that you look like Chris Hemsworth. But we find out that it's actually your neighbor, Phil Hemsworth. Something funny about the name Phil Hemsworth. And, again, it's just silly. It's a subversion of the expectation, setup, punchline.

And it's also again, there's something really cool and confident about a guy who is not afraid to make fun of himself. Don't get me wrong. I want you to be confident and super certain about your worth and awesomeness to women and just your awesomeness as a man. And there's something really cool about a cool, confident, awesome guy who's also not afraid to joke about how he doesn't have a Chris Hemsworth body. Yeah. So by the way, if you are ripped, if you do have an amazing body, you probably don't wanna use this prompt. But if you're just a regular looking dude like me, regular physique, nothing too fancy, just try the Phil Hemsworth one. Again, shirtless

I look just like Hemsworth to my neighbor, Phil Hemsworth. And then you could add, like, a muscle emoji next to it. By the way, feel free to use whatever good emoji you think works with each of these prompts. 1, maybe 2 emojis most is totally fine to use with any of these. Here's another one kind of similar to the Hemsworth one. I'm basically real life clickbait, good looking with a terrible personality and then a laughing emoji. So why does this one work? Let me diagnose this in real time. So with this one, the prompt is, again, you're you sound like you're bragging at the beginning, and you kind of are, but then you puncture your own brag braggadociousness with a self effacing comment.

You know what this is? This is actually a push pull aimed at you. I don't know if you if you've read my book and if you've known about dating culture and dating terms, you might know the term push pull, which is a way to tease. It's basically a tease and a compliment mixed together. You know? Like, you say to a woman, oh my god. You're either the coolest girl I've ever talked to or the nerdiest. I'm just not sure which one. So it's kind of like a compliment, kinda like a tease. I I write about I write about this in my book, how to do push pulls.

Anyway, usually, push pulls are directed at a woman or at your date just for fun. In this case, it's actually this prompt is actually a push pull toward you. I just realized that. So I think that that's what makes it interesting. Women are used to guys being arrogant. They're not used to a guy at first sounding arrogant, but then cutting himself down. But it's a comedic thing. You're not literally you're not you don't literally mean that you have a terrible personality, I hope.

And you probably don't literally mean that you're great looking. The whole point of this prompt is that it's funny. So again, I'm basically real life clickbait, great looking with a terrible personality. And it also is just telling the truth. Right? Part of what works in humor is truth. There's just something about true things that make us all nod and laugh and resonate. And, you know, clickbait or celebrity clickbait, it's good looking people with really lame personalities often. Right? Think like thirst traps.

Actually, you could actually revise this. If you wanna change it, you could make it. I'm basically a real life thirst trap. Great looking with a terrible personality. I think that's actually better. I would use that. And then a laughing emoji would be good. So, again, we're the whole point of this, you're just trying to make her smile

Make her laugh because she'll wanna keep reading, and then she'll wanna match with you because she'll be thinking, hey. This guy is gonna be fun and funny on a date. That sounds good.

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Here it is. Our dream date, I take you to the finest Burger King in town. I know the maitre d. Burger emoji, king crown emoji. So I'll read it one more time. Here's with punctuation. Our dream date I take you to the finest Burger King in town end parentheses and then the 2 emojis. I like this one a lot because it's very silly.

It's dumb. There's just something kind of funny about juxtaposing the idea of a Burger King having a maitre d. Of course, Burger King doesn't have that. And it's it's self effacing. You know? Again, it's also slightly subverting what women are used to reading. So, by the way, all of this is about breaking women out of their swiping pattern, getting them to feel something good and see something new and different that they're not used to reading. What are women used to reading? If a guy does mention a dream date, it's gonna be very standard. Our dream date, I take you out for dinner followed by drinks and dancing.

Okay. Fine. That's not the worst prompt I've ever read, but it's not really it's not gonna make her smile or laugh, and it's pretty basic. So here, we've got a subversion where the dream date is you taking her to a fine Burger King with the maitre d'. And then, again, we just want her thinking, this guy's funny. This guy's funny. So these are the 9 or 10 that I like the most. I've got a lot more.

Let me throw a couple more ideas at you for funny prompts. But just before I go because there are some really good ones that I didn't mention, hold on a second. I'm just looking at my notes here. By the way, you know, I've been talking about these through the lens of prompts. You can also use any of these lines in a regular bio. Any of these funny lines I've mentioned, by the way, they make a really good first line of a bio because a great way to start your bio on Bumble or Tinder, that tip you know, the the the typical box where you put in a normal bio, great way to start it is with a funny line. So any of these can also double as that first line. Here's a few more funny ones just for more of your consideration. One that I really liked has worked well for me is I'm a gentleman on the streets with a dad bod in the sheets, The bed emoji.

I like this one. I'm a hopeless romantic. I love long walks to the fridge. Okay? Here's a good one if you're a shorter guy. If you're, you know, 5 under 5 foot 7 or 8, you could say, what I lack in height, I make up for with a 780 credit rating, The little money emoji. Because my feeling is if you can't fix something, feature it. If you are not a tall guy, that's cool. All good. There's women out there for you too. Either don't mention your height at all, don't make it something you're insecure about or feature it. Have some fun with it. So you could say, hey. What I lack in height, I make up for with a 780 credit rating. Or I like this one. I'm not tall, but I'll protect you by punching a mugger right in the shin. That's a good one if you're on the short side. If you're tall, definitely mention your height because, hey, if you're 6 feet or taller, can't hurt you, could only help you. And you could have some fun with this one. You could say something like, Just so you know, I'm 6 foot but don't worry, I might let you be the big spoon. That's a good one because it's playful and light. It's also conveying your height if you're a taller guy. And it's a little bit romantic because now you're painting the picture for her of, of spooning in bed. Now we're getting into a romantic, sexual place. Oh, here's another one.

Actually, you know what? Here's my number one favorite. Here's my number one favorite one. I'm loving this one. This is great for Hinge or Bumble, which wait. Whichever one has the shower thought. I forget. I think it's Hinge. But, anyway, a shower I thought I had recently. No hot water. So basically, you just write out a shower though I recently had and then all capped, a a h h h h h h h, exclamation point, no hot water, all capped, 5 exclamation points. You get it, right? That's the shower thought you had. It's literally the shower you thought you had when, when there was no cold water. We've all had that moment in the shower. And yeah. So that wraps things up. Those are some humorous Hinge Bumble prompts, and feel free to just take the concepts I've talked about here. You know, the idea of starting off on 1 path on a Hinge prompt and then subverting it, changing it, feel free to mess around with your own prompts and use your own humor, your own sense of humor, your own personality. Again, after photos cultivating a good sense of humor is the best way to get matches and dates on dating apps. Because if you can make her laugh and you have reasonably good photos, you're gonna get some dates, some pretty wonderful women. And one last tip, I would say a lot of guys say, well, how many of my prompts, how much of my profile should be funny? Good question. More than you might think. I would say you can have up to 50% of your profile designed to make her smile and laugh, as long as you're not repeating the same kind of joke. So it's fine let's have 2 out of your 3 prompts be funny on Hinge. Have the third one be more sincere and relatable because we do wanna be sincere and relatable. You don't want to just be all humor all the time, but I'd say 25 to 50% of your profile can have fun, funny lines. And the rest of it is more relatable, more sincere, more specific about who you are as a guy. And that's a really nice balance because now we've got a woman who sees you as a relatable, dateable dude, and we've also got her laughing and feeling good. And, Ben, you're in business. Okay. Happy Valentine's Day late to you, and I'll see you next time. And don't forget. Remember, your dream girl is out there.She's already into you. She will like you. She just has to meet the real authentic you. I'll see you next time.

 

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