Check out the Dating Transformation Podcast to Gain Confidence & Learn How to Get a Girlfriend… by Being Authentic!
The Dating Transformation Podcast will help you gain confidence, flirt with charm, and attract your ideal girlfriend… all by being truly authentic and respecting women (No creepy “pickup” tricks needed!)
Every week, dating coach Connell Barrett and his special guest will help you overcome self-doubt so that you can awaken your most confident self, attract wonderful women, and find a great girlfriend… as the REAL you
The practical tips you’ll hear on the Dating Transformation Podcast will give you the step-by-step strategy you need to get more dates from the apps, learn to confidently approach women, and find the perfect partner … all while making dating FUN.
Dating Coach Connell Barrett helps men connect with women by unlocking their most confident, authentic selves… NO creepy “pickup” tricks needed. He’s the author of the No. 1 Amazon bestseller, “Dating Sucks But You Don’t,” a step-by-step dating guide for men.
Connell has appeared on “Today” and “Good Morning America,” and in Best Life, Playboy and Cosmo. Named New York City’s “Best Dating Coach” by Datezie, Connell coaches for the Hily dating app and is an advisor to AskMen.
So, what do women really want? The answer comes down to one word: authenticity. Be who you truly are at your core, because women will like you for you.
Lean into being the nice guy, or brainy introvert, or divorced dad that you are. If you embrace authenticity in your love life, then your confidence will skyrocket, you’ll get more dates, and you’ll soon be sharing your life with a wonderful woman who loves the real you.
You need a clear, compelling vision for your dating life that gets you excited and juiced. It’s your Amazing Outcome.
Keep it simple, specific, compelling—and give it a date of completion.
Example: “I want a sweet, pretty, well-educated girlfriend who laughs at my dumb jokes, and I want to be dating her by XYZ date.” Hint: 3 months is a good timeline for meeting Miss Right, because it’s doable but challenging. A deadline will motivate you to take action.
So, carpe date’em! Seize the date!
Most men focus on what they think they lack, rather than what they offer. (“Why can’t I be better-looking?”) This crushes your confidence. Let’s focus on specific reasons why you’re a great choice for women. This shift of focus boosts confidence.
Write out 25 reasons why you’re an awesome catch. There’s no wrong answer, as long as each item is specific. A sample from my Awesome List: “1) I like and respect women . . . 7) I’m a good kisser . . . 12) I know every Beatles song by heart . . . 17) I make great French toast . . . 22) I have a good job.”
For a woman to find you awesome, first YOU need to see that value in yourself.
The art of how to get a girlfriend includes conveying clear romantic intent. If you’re interested in a woman, make it very clear you’re interested. No need to be subtle or “mysterious.” It can be as simple as saying, “Let’s go on a date,” rather than “Let’s hang out.” On the date, don’t hide your feelings. Tell her or show her that you think she’s sexy or cool.
“Going direct” means that your words and/or vibe convey clear romantic interest from the get-go. Here are examples of direct openers.
“Hi, I saw you and had to meet you.”
“You’re absolutely adorable.”
“Wow. You’re gorgeous. I’m here to flirt with you.”
We all want to be appreciated for what’s inside. Let a woman know an inner quality you like about her. Are you impressed by her smarts, wits, sense of humor, or caring heart? Tell her. Lots of guys have told her how beautiful she is on the outside. Be that rare man who also sees the beauty within
"Troublemaker.” “Kiddo.” “Freckles.” Giving a nickname to someone means you know and like them, and it suggests familiarity. The night I met my future girlfriend Carrie, she started calling me “Ginger-Man,” and it made me even more into her.
No fish photos allowed. She doesn’t want to date Quint from “Jaws”
Your featured photo should be crisp, clear, and bright, ideally shot with natural light, which tends to be more flattering than artificial light. You’ll want to zoom in close and shoot from the waist or chest up. Look at the lens—eye contact increases the sense of connection with the audience.
And smile—a real smile, not a fake, forced smile. (Leave the smoldering glares to Zoolander.)
Dress first-date great. No sweats, no ball caps, no cargo shorts—no exceptions.
Do a photo shoot with a professional photographer. Try googling “online dating photographers” or “social media photographers” in your area. You can also use a friend who’s good with a camera.
After your photo shoot, take five to ten of your best portraits and test them on Photofeeler, to get unbiased feedback from women. You can also ask female friends to pick their favorites.
For other great photos, use shots that showcase your passions—running a marathon, playing guitar, tearing up the dance floor. Women want a man who’s living a cool, fun life.
Do NOT Post These Photos on Your Dating Profile
There’s an old expression: To be interesting, be interested. Here are seven questions to ask that will make you downright fascinating and trigger stimulating conversations on dates.
Here are some fun, flirty texts to send her the day after your first date, if you like her.
“Last night was great. Do you have a Yelp page where I can leave you a review?”
“Did you have fun last night? Text 1 for yes, 2 for HELL yes.”
“Mom! Dad! I think I met THE ONE last night. I just hope she doesn’t find out that I still live in your basement.”
“I think we both agree that last night was a blast, and we should do it again.”
And this one is a cheeky, flip-the-script classic: “Hey, I just wanted to say that you had a great time last night and you’d like to see me again…”
After dating for a month or two, it’s time to make your coupledom official. Choose the right place and time to “pop the question”—say, during a relaxing day in the park, not in some loud bar.
Speak from the heart. Tell her how much you enjoy her and what she’s added to your life. Say something like, “I’m crazy about you, and the way you [specific thing you love]. I don’t want to date anyone else. I want to be your boyfriend. Would you like to be my girlfriend?”
Next, celebrate, laugh, kiss, and rip each other’s clothes off. (If you’re in a park, wait till you get home for that last part.)
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