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Connell Barrett:
I'm a gentleman on the street with a dad bod in the sheets. Welcome back to the how to get a girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach Connell Barrett. I am here to help you learn to flirt, gain confidence, and get an incredible girlfriend, and do it by being authentic. Using radical authenticity, showing women that true best real you. No sketchy pickup artist moves needed. And if you're struggling to get good matches and get dates off the dating apps, then you need to know how to write an online dating profile that's gonna get you matches and dates. And right now you might be asking yourself, what the heck do I write in my bio? How do I get matches? What should I say? What's the right bio? How do I write prompts? What are the kinds of things to write that are gonna get matches? Well, in this episode, I'm gonna help you write a magnetic dating profile using just 3 simple steps.

Connell Barrett:
Just 3. And this advice will work on any dating platform, Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, what have you. So no matter what app or profile or platform you're on, this episode is gonna be able to help you. Okay? And here's what you're gonna get. I'm gonna give you 3 things in less than 30 minutes. I made a New Year's resolution to do shorter, leaner, meaner episodes. So in under 30 minutes, you're gonna get these three things. You're gonna get 7 secrets to writing a kick ass online dating profile bio.

Connell Barrett:
Then I'm gonna give you a step by step guide to crafting a 3 line bio that's gonna help you get better matches and results. And as a bonus at the very end of this episode, before the 30 minute mark, I'm gonna give you my 10 funniest Hinge Bumble Tinder prompts. Basically, 10 of my funniest prompts that get women giggling, laughing, and swiping right. So, I'm really psyched about this episode. You're gonna get tons of great stuff packed in under 30 minutes. And let me remind you that, yes, online dating really does work. It actually does work even if it hasn't worked for you yet. I met my beautiful, wonderful girlfriend, Jess, the love of my life, my schmoopy, my sweetheart, my best friend.

Connell Barrett:
I met her on a dating app.

Jess:
Which one do you wanna go to, Schmoopy?

Connell Barrett:
You called me Schmoopy. You're Schmoopy. You're Schmoopy. You're Schmoopy. Alright, Schmoopies. So, yes, online dating works as long as you have a profile that is dialed in on what works. And today, we're gonna talk about the bio and the prompts. So let's do it.

Connell Barrett:
Let me help you get some good matches. Let's start with the 7 secrets to writing a great dating profile bio. Secret number 1, showcase your authentic personality. Dating success on the apps is about authenticity. It's about showcasing your best, truest, most attractive self to women and letting your type of woman see the real you. Your authentic self is your most attractive self, and we wanna make sure that your personality, your authentic personality is coming out on your profile. We wanna make sure that your sense of humor, your mind, your likes, dislikes, the real you, we want that light shining through. And I'll show you how to do that before we're done here today.

Connell Barrett:
But here's a warning, I want you to ignore advice from so-called experts, mostly men, who push this alpha male strategy for dating, or in terms of online dating, beware guys who give you copy and paste one size fits all bios or prompts. I'm gonna give you lots of ideas today. I'm gonna give you tons of ideas for writing your profile, but I'm gonna want you to write a genuine, specific, authentic profile to you. So don't forget that women are attracted to the real, authentic you. And if you put on a fake alpha male toxic persona, that probably won't even work to get you matches. But if it did, a woman's gonna meet you and find out that that's not who you are, and then you're screwed, or rather you're not screwed. Oh, and nor do you wanna just have generic copy and paste one size fits all prompts and bios like some of these lame guys give in their programs. So, anyway, ignore them.

Connell Barrett:
They don't know jack shit. Listen to me. I know what I'm talking about. Okay. Secret number 2, to get you a great online dating profile bio that's gonna get you matches and dates, secret number 2 is use humor. Use humor. Humor is your secret weapon. If you can make a woman laugh, that's more attractive to her than having 6 pack abs.

Connell Barrett:
Because when you showcase your authentic sense of humor, she's gonna imagine laughing, having fun with you on that date, and that's going to remove one of the biggest obstacles to getting matches and dates, which is this. Women are tired of boring dates, boring conversations, and awkward dates. They're so tired of that. So using humor removes the obstacle or helps you to remove the obstacle that keeps a woman from swiping right because she's gonna say, well, yeah. Okay. He's got nice photos. I like his look, but, man, his bio is so boring. I don't want another boring date.

Connell Barrett:
I don't want any more awkward moments on dates. That's what keeps so many women from swiping right. So using humor is going to help you, and I'm gonna help you do that today. And stick around again because at the end, I'm gonna share my 10 funniest dating app lines. Okay. Secret number 3 for an online dating bio is to keep things positive. Good vibes only. Avoid negativity, and don't list a bunch of don'ts.

Connell Barrett:
Don't make your profile a laundry list of what you don't want in a partner. Don't be negative. Don't have baggage. Don't do this. Don't do that. Instead, focus on positivity. Focus on what excites you and inspires you. I doubt that this is your biggest problem.

Connell Barrett:
If you're listening to my pod, you're probably not a negative guy, but I've seen more than a few online dating profiles that are just like, here's what I don't wanna deal with, and that's an instant swipe left. So keep things positive. Secret number 4 is to keep your bio brief and visually appealing. I recommend a 3 line bio that has spaces between each line. Okay? A 3 line bio, and I'm gonna take you through what this might look like step by step. But for example, here's an example of my online dating bio that I've used in the past that worked really well. I've used this on both Bumble and Tinder. Line number 1, I'm a romantic.

Connell Barrett:
I like long walks to the fridge. Line number 2, I'm a dating coach for men like Hitch, but don't worry. I would never slap Chris Rock. And line number 3, I'm talk shopping. Should I get a Frenchie or a rescue? That's very short. That's under 50 words. It's about 40 words. Now that's very easy to read.

Connell Barrett:
I know I know this is a podcast, so you're listening, not watching this, but visualize how easy that is to read. Three lines and there's also space between each line. So it's very easy to breathe those lines for those lines to breathe. And a woman's gonna read every single word on my profile. She may or may not resonate with me, but she's gonna read every word. If you just have a much longer profile and you have tons and tons of you have, like, 100 100 words all clumped together in 1 giant block, then she's not gonna read any of it. So, again, keep your bio brief and visually appealing using the 3 step 3 bullet pointed bio, which I'm gonna help you write as we proceed today. Okay.

Connell Barrett:
Secret number 5 is speak emotionally, not logically in your bio. Your bio shouldn't read like a logical informational resume. We want passion, we want humor, and we want some playful flirtatiousness. Secret number 6 is to be flirtatious. It's okay to flirt on your bio. It's actually more than okay. It's basically essential. Just make sure you keep the flirtatiousness PG rated.

Connell Barrett:
So for example, here's an example of a flirtatious line that I like. Quote, my ideal date, we sweat our butts off on the dance floor, dot dot dot, and sweat a bit more back at my place, winky face. That flirtatiousness shows confidence, and it helps keep you out of the, let's call it the online dating friend zone. If you don't have any flirtatiousness anywhere on your profile, you run the risk of essentially getting digitally friend zoned. That ain't no fun. And secret number 7 is to include a call to action on your bio. What do I mean by a call to action? Well, that's a marketing term. Your dating profile is really just a piece of digital marketing.

Connell Barrett:
That's all it is. So in any piece of digital marketing, you wanna a digital marketer will tell you what they want you to do. Like and subscribe. Call now. Call 800. Operators are standing by. This is all email to get your free book, something I've said here. That's what marketers do.

Connell Barrett:
So you wanna have a call to action because people are trained to do what they're told. And it's not that they need to do what they're told. It's that they might not know what they should do. And so you wanna make it easy for that woman to do something. For example, a call to action could be a fun question. Like, would you rather bathe in soda pop or champagne? That's a fun playful call to action. It invites her to respond. Or your call to action could be a directive.

Connell Barrett:
Swipe right if you like charming, handsome men. Hint. Hint. So use a call to action. Okay. Those are the seven secrets. You struggle with dating. Right? Sure.

Connell Barrett:
You have a good job and cool friends, but you just aren't sure how to flirt. The apps don't work for you, and sometimes women put you in the friend zone. It's frustrating. Hey. I struggle with dating too. As an introvert and a total nerd, I didn't just live in the friend zone. I owned real estate there, but I escaped using the dating philosophy of radical authenticity, which I've used to help thousands of men in 17 countries find love. It's what I wrote about in my best selling book, Dating Sucks But You Don't.

Connell Barrett:
And radical authenticity is why psychology today called me the best dating coach in America. And now I wanna personally help you attract your dream girlfriend. So go to datingtransformation.com and book a free call with me. On our call, I'll tell you how my 1 on 1 coaching will help you find your dream girlfriend, and you'll be doing it by flirting with confidence and authenticity. No creepy pickup tricks needed. So go to dating transformation.com, book a free call today, and let my personalized coaching help you get a great girlfriend. Here's our super quick list of what not to include in your bio. Here's what not to put on your online dating bio.

Connell Barrett:
Number 1, negativity. Don't list a bunch of don'ts. Don't list what you don't want. Number 2, cliches. I want you to avoid cliches like the plague. Get it? Avoid overused phrases, like, I'm bad at bios. Ugh. I hate that.

Connell Barrett:
Avoid quoting The Office. Okay. Great. You love The Office. I love The Office. Everybody loves The Office.

Jess:
Would I rather be feared or loved? Easy. Both. I want people to be afraid of how much they love me.

Connell Barrett:
We can stop writing that on our profiles. It's not gonna help you. And another thing not to include in your bio is nothing, blank spaces. In other words, make sure you write something in your bio. K? Don't leave it blank. Don't leave it blank. Always include a bio of some kind. And what kind? Well, I recommend a 3 line through basically, a 3 bullet pointed bio.

Connell Barrett:
I recommend a 3 line bio. It's a format that gives enough information about a woman, about you to a woman to attract her, but also keeping it concise. Because women don't wanna spend a lot of time reading a long bio, but they wanna read something. So here's how to write your bio in 3 simple steps. Okay. Here's what line number 1 should be. Line number 1 should be a humorous hook. A hook, a humorous hook.

Connell Barrett:
The first sentence is the most important part of your bio. It hooks her interest. By the way, when I say bio, I'm talking about Bumble and Tinder primarily. Those two platforms give you that field to write, to write a bio. Hinge doesn't do that. I'm gonna tell you exactly how to use Hinge later, But for now, when I say bio, I'm talking about that core bio such as on Bumble and Tinder. So the first sentence is the most important part of your bio. What it does is it hooks her interest and makes her wanna keep reading.

Connell Barrett:
That's the goal. And the best way to do this is with humor. Because as I said earlier, getting her to laugh is better than having an 8 pack. Not that I have a 6 pack or an 8 pack. I have 40 ounces. So if you can make a woman laugh and you have those reasonably good photos, you're gonna get some matches. You're gonna date you're gonna get some dates. So here's some examples of what I mean by a hook, a humorous hook.

Connell Barrett:
Ideally, a humorous hook has an authentic specific about you, but with some humor blended in to make it to make it sweet, to make it taste good. So here's some examples. I'm a romantic. I like long walks to the fridge. Okay? Here's another one that I came up with. These are mostly ones I've come up with or heard and tweet. Another good hook is, I'm a gentleman on the street with a dad bod in the sheets. Here's a few more.

Connell Barrett:
This is good to oh, I here's one that really helped one of my, shorter clients. What I lack in height, I make up for with a 7 90 credit rating. I love that one because my client who used that was acknowledging, hey. I'm not tall, but because he's cracking a joke about it, he's using humor. That's really attractive. Another client I had who's not tall, he's about 5-6, this was his hook. We wrote, I'm not tall, but I promise I'll protect you by punching a mugger right in the shin. It's a little bit wordy, but it got him matches, and women liked it.

Connell Barrett:
Here's another one. Warning. Dating me has been known to cause laughing and swooning. Consult your doctor before matching with a little doctor emoji. Here's another one. I'm kind of a bad boy. I jaywalk anytime I want. Here's one more.

Connell Barrett:
I want somebody who looks at me the way Kanye looks at his reflection. Okay. So those are all examples of opening line humorous hooks. Let's move to line number 2. Line number 2 shares an interesting specific detail about you. So line number 1, we hook her with some humor. Line number 2, we share something more specific and detailed about you. So let me just ask you a question right now.

Connell Barrett:
What's interesting and unique about you? What's something that you want women to know about you? It doesn't have to be life changing. It can be small, but we want it to be specific. So for example, here's some examples from either myself or my clients. My cinnamon French toast sticks will make your mouth water. Fun fact, I'm red green color blind. Please tell me what Christmas looks like. That's mine because I'm a color blind man. That worked well for me at Christmas.

Connell Barrett:
Here's another line for the second line. I've been to 21 countries. Last stop, Machu Picchu. Next stop, Melbourne. That's a great line, by the way. I just realized Machu Picchu isn't a country, but fine. Close enough. So the second line should give a woman some information about you.

Connell Barrett:
One of my best ever second lines, that line number 2, is just me writing a simple statement of fact that's interesting though, which is that I'm a dating coach for men. So I had a lot of success because I'm a dating coach for men. I basically, I'm the real life hitch. So if you have an unusual job, if you have something about if you have a hobby, a job, a passion, a pastime that is unique to you and is different than what most women are used to hearing, that could be a really good line number 2, if it's interesting and specific about you. One of my clients had a lot of success. He's a coffee connoisseur, like, hardcore coffee connoisseur. He tasted like 120 different kinds of coffee beans. He's been to 7 or 8 countries where coffee is produced.

Connell Barrett:
So he used that detail because it's very authentic and specific to him, and it just jumps off of a woman's phone because she's not used just to reading something so specific. So line number 2, share an interesting specific detail about yourself. And line number 3 is to add a call to action. Ask a question or invite her to engage with you in some way, shape, or form. Here's some of my favorite calls to action. Would you rather eat a potato or be a potato? That worked really well for one of my clients. That's a really good one. Here's another good one.

Connell Barrett:
Thin crust or deep dish pizza? Pressure's on. There is a right answer. And here's one that has gotten me so many responses from women, like, probably over a 100, this next call to action. And you can use this if you want to. This is a copy and paste version if you want to, as long as it's relatively genuine. I wrote, I'm puppy shopping. Should I get a Frenchie or a rescue? Women have strong opinions about what kind of dog a person should get, and that got me so many responses. Some women write me back and write to me and say, oh my god.

Connell Barrett:
You should get a Frenchie. They're so cute. I would say about 2 thirds of the women say, rescue a dog, Connell. Rescue a dog. It feels so good. So this call to action about what kind of dog to get, Frenchie or rescue, it just really hits women emotionally. And that's what we wanna do. We wanna make a positive emotional impact.

Connell Barrett:
So that's your three line structure. K? Super quick recap. Line number 1 is you want to use that humorous hook. Line number 2, share an interesting specific detail about yourself. And line number 3, add a call to action. Get her responding to you. The call to action works because, look, women are like you. Women get stuck in their heads.

Connell Barrett:
They're not sure what to write. They're not sure what to message, especially on Bumble, where women tend to make the first move. So that call to action makes it easier for them to do that. So that's your three line structure, and at the end your profile is gonna look something like this. Again, just like I mentioned earlier. Line number 1. Here's one of my previous recent profiles. Line number 1, I'm a romantic.

Connell Barrett:
I love long walks to the fridge. Number 2. Line number 2, I'm a dating coach for men like Hitch, but no no slapping Chris Rock. And line number 3. I'm puppy shopping. Should I get a rescue or a Frenchie? So in less than 40 words, that's less than 40 words that I just read to you. I have made her laugh. I have shown my authentic self, and I've made it really easy for a woman to reply.

Connell Barrett:
And this, along with really good photos, is why I get an insane number of matches as my clients do. I'm not bragging. I'm just saying I've been doing this for almost 20 years actually, 20 years now I've been working on online dating. So I've got it down to a science. Now you might be asking, alright. That's good for Bumble and Tinder. What about Hinge? What do I do on Hinge? Well, for Hinge, you can use the same three line system that I just came up with or I just shared with you. But all you do is simply pour those three lines into your prompts.

Connell Barrett:
You pour the three lines you use and make these the 3 hinge prompts. It's great to have 3. You want your 3 hinge prompts to have a nice variety to them. So, absolutely, one of them should be can and should be a humorous prompt. Another one can and should be something specific about you that you want women to know. In other words, line number 2. And a great choice for a prompt is a call to action, especially on Hinge. Because as you know if you use Hinge, on Hinge, a woman can directly respond to your prompt. She can respond to your question about thin crust or deep dish pizza.

Connell Barrett:
She can respond to your question, would you rather eat a potato or be a potato? And that's what I love about Hinge. Hinge is great because every single part of Hinge, every photo, every prompt, every little bit of it is an opportunity for a woman to heart and hopefully respond to something that you've written. So all you gotta do is take these three lines that we've created and make these your 3 hinge prompts, and then you're in a really good place. Don't fast forward. This is not an ad. It's a free thing that's gonna help you flirt with confidence, because I'll bet that you struggle with what to say to women and how to flirt. Right? Well, let's fix that. I'm gonna give you what I call the flirty 30.

Connell Barrett:
These are 30 flirty questions to ask women on the apps or on dates or when you approach so that you can confidently connect with cool sexy women starting today. It's time to stop running out of things to say and start asking them flirty questions that are gonna make them want to date you. So to get your copy of the flirty thirty, it's totally free. Just go to dating transformation.com/flirty30. And that's flirty30. Datingtransformation.com/flirty30. You're about to start confidently flirting with women, going on dates, and soon getting a great girlfriend. Go get your flirty 30.

Connell Barrett:
Okay. Let's finish with the bonus that I teased earlier. Here are 10 of my funniest dates. Let's call these one liners, because these could be hinge prompts, these could be bumble prompts, these could be Tinder prompts, or you could use any of these for your opening humorous hook. So I'll restate it after the photos. The opening line of your bio is the most important part of your online dating profile on almost any dating app. Here we go. In no particular order, here are 10 of my favorite funny dating prompts slash one liners. Number 1, I'm an amazing kisser.

Connell Barrett:
At least that's what my cousin tells me. Number 2, I can cook any dish that you want as long as that dish is peanut butter on toast. Number 3, the divorce rate among my stop my socks is astonishing. Number 4, I love cooking with wine. I even add food to it sometimes. Number 5, first date vibes, a long romantic dinner with just you and my parents. Number 6, shirtless, I look just like Hemsworth. Phil Hemsworth, my neighbor.

Connell Barrett:
Number 7, I'm basically real life clickbait. Great looks, terrible personality. Number 8. This is good for Hinge because Hinge has a little prompt that tees up what you're gonna write. It says typical Sunday. So on Hinge, for the one that says typical Sunday, then you simply write recovering from my typical Saturday. Number 9, this is this next one, number 9 has gotten me so many matches, women love it. I'm training for a marathon, a Netflix marathon.

Connell Barrett:
Just a dumb dad joke, but women really like it. And number 10, our dream date, I take you to the finest Burger King in town. I know the maitre d'. Okay. Those are 10 really good lines that have gotten me or my clients matches, responses, conversations going, and dates. So again, follow these steps and you're gonna have a bio that's funny, that has some humor, but also has authenticity. It's the real you, and it's going to get you results. So I'll leave you with this thought because you've made it this far, because you are 25 minutes into today's podcast and you listen to the whole thing, God bless you.

Connell Barrett:
Here's what I'm gonna do for you. I'm gonna make you a little offer. If you send me an email, email me at connell@datingtransformation.com. The first five people who sent me an email on the subject, just put up a podcast bio. Send me your bio and I will look at it and I will respond and I'll give you some feedback by email. I will directly give you 1 on 1 personalized help. All you gotta do is send me an email and send me your 3 line bio, and I'll give you some feedback, some personalized help. Because you made it this far, I really appreciate you being here.

Connell Barrett:
I appreciate you listening, and thank you so much. There's a 1000000000 podcasts out there, way too many, and, you've listened to mine today, and that means a lot to me. So thank you for letting me be your coach for these 30 minutes. And, don't forget, your dream girlfriend, she is out there, and she is gonna love you. She just has to meet the real authentic you. So go out there, take action, carpe datum. Seize the date. Till next time.